Youth is beautifully crazy!
I am a true believer of this saying, “Almost everything that is great has been done by youth”. As beautiful and crazy the youth is sometimes it is hard to get through it without facing its own hard times. Our kids can have crazy times which can lead to a beautiful creation and sometimes a horrible disaster. But let’s admit that we all have had our crazy youth moments and we all went through it making beautiful memories and hard learned lessons.
One of the fearsome challenges of our young ones can be the peer pressure. The point is that no matter how crazy our young ones can get but sometimes it is truly not their fault and the “horrible” thing that they have done is the result of a much more exceedingly horrible “peer pressure”. It does not hurt to have a little faith in your kids and try to understand their problems which unfortunately are not that much visible.
You can actually help your kids face the challenges of youth with smart team work. Bert Fulks, a youth minister and educator at Empty stone Minister share his secret formula for rescuing your children from tough social situations. He is a dedicated professional who regularly attends an interactive session with a group of adults every week; a group of young adults struggling with their addictions.
He shares one of the painful struggles of these young adults as one day he asks them a simple question, ““How many of you have found yourself in situations where things started happening that you weren’t comfortable with, but you stuck around, mainly because you felt like you didn’t have a way out?”, and astonishingly every single hand was raised. The good thing was that Bert came up with just the right plan for their rescue; The X plan!
X plan Xplained!
The X plan is a simple enough formula and Fulks use it with his own kids has successfully rescued them from tough social situations without damaging their social standing. Here is how it works. The X plan is based on a mutually agreed code word “X”. Whenever your kid is facing an awkward peer pressure of seemingly no way out, he or she just has to use this letter “X” in a simple text conversation. The X letter in the conversation will trigger the required response from you in the form of an urgent call to your kids telling them to come home ASAP with no excuse at all. Your kid has just got the way out from that “peer pressure”. Thanks to this “urgent” call from his parents who are just “not cool”. You just have to get this “not cool” tag from your kid for this great rescue which is something you won’t mind for this worthy rescue operation. Somehow you are going to get this “not cool” mark anyway as there are a lot of youth activities you don’t approve of anyway.
X plan in action!
X plan in action!
Keeping your end of the bargain!
However application of this ingenious “X plan” requires keeping your end of the bargain too. “The X-plan comes with the agreement that we will pass no judgments and ask no questions (even if he is 10 miles away from where he’s supposed to be)”.
You must acknowledge and understand that you cannot make your kids live by a strict rule book. They might make mistakes and do all sorts of stuff but most of the times they are just forced to do the “horrible” stuff they don’t actually want to. Here is when you can jump in with your X plan to their rescue. It is important that you put the confidence in your young ones by an understanding behaviour so that they don’t face the fear of judgment whenever they have the most compelling need to ask for your help. We have to give our kids a reason to believe in us if we want them to take advantage of this X plan.
Youth can be crazy, and it is supposed to be. After all, we all have had our “crazy” moments too. But we must understand that with proper care and be helping our young ones harnessing this power can result in beautiful creations.
Concluding this blog post, Fulks requests the audience to share his witty X plan; “I beg you to share this piece. If this somehow gives just one kid a way out of a bad situation, we can all feel privileged to have been a part of that”.