When did you figure out you were gay?
It’s a popular question, and the answers are often very enlightening. They just look at people of their same sex and feel something they don’t when they look at another. Experimentation while watching videos online. But a lot of it comes down to vision.
They find faces and bodies and genitals of their own gender more appealing than the other.
So what happens if you’re blind?
In a recent and very enlightening thread, blind gay people were asked this question. And the answers were surprisingly unsurprising. You’ll know when you read their stories.
“I’ve been blind since birth, and extremely gay. You know when you see someone and are attracted to them? It’s kind of like that but I can’t see.”
“When I was 11 or 12, I didn’t really understand the difference between boys and girls. To me, they were the same except that men turned me on and women didn’t.
I did not know about body parts (breasts, vagina, penis, etc.) and yet, I was attracted to my same sex. Because of my unique situation, I can tell you that being gay is not a choice.
When I meet someone, what I go by is their voice, their smell, their kindness, and their willingness to help me when needed.
“I hear the voices of guys and it just sounds attractive to me. Even though I can’t ‘see’ them physically mentally I can picture how they look.”
“I can’t tell you anything other than, well, when I hear a man’s voice I like, I get an erection. I don’t know how else to explain it other than that. I just knew I never found women sexually attractive, like at all.”
“I’m pretty sure it’s a cultural trope that most people (men and women, gay and straight) prefer to close their eyes while kissing and turn the lights down (or even off) during sex. We might think we’re all about visuals, but actually when it comes down to it, there’s a lot more going on that we often don’t think about.”
AllHarlowsEve, who claims to be pansexual, said:
“Honestly, it’s not all that different from how sighted people know they’re gay. When they think about kissing someone, say around second grade or so, they know if they want to kiss boys or girls.”