Woman Who Was Domestically Abused Reveals God-Awful Text Exchange

Domestic violence is a serious problem.

About 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been victims of (some form of) physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime. That’s a very serious and tough problem. It isn’t something to be ignored. Recently, an Imgur user, krissykross created a post with images detailing the time she spent with her abusive partner, Adam.

She says that that is a good example of the strings of texts she would get at work while on shift. She doesn’t reply immediately because she is not allowed her phone on the clock.


Tony was her coworker. He clocked off when she was clocking on. Tony helped her change her tire once, and Adam accused her of sleeping with him.


She stayed the night with a female friend from work. He knew because he “set traps” for her.


Adam was her husband. This is how her husband treated her.

She said she visits her mother once every couple years. At the time of the text, she had a huge bruise on her arm from where her husband had bit her, leaving visible teeth marks. She said that the bruise was so bad that it hung around for almost a month. It lasted long enough through her visit to her mother and to be photographed by the NCIS when she finally called them.



She goes on to explain;

As for the midnight thing, I had to call him at midnight every night I was with my mother. Assuming it was because he wanted to make sure I wasn’t out being drunk and doing nefarious things during the evening.

My ex-husband was a kind, loving man. That is, until I lost weight (at 5’3″ and over 200lbs, it was sort of necessary.) I then got a job. Suddenly, I was cheating, I lost weight to get men, I couldn’t buy clothes that fit me after the 80 pounds lost because it showed off my body.

He hit me and sexuallly assaulted me. He waited outside my work for whole shifts, not telling me if he was carrying the Beretta M9 he had purchased recently. I wanted to go out with two (female) coworkers for my 23rd birthday, I told him weeks in advance and when the time came, he punched me in the face and slammed my head into the floor, only leaving me alone because he had duty that evening. I tired to go to the police in the middle of the night, he tailgated me the whole way, I tried to talk to his parents and they told me it was normal in a young marriage and I should reassure him. His father is a pastor in Tennessee and holds this belief.

It’s not easy for a victim to leave their abusive partner. But I’m glad that Krissykross found it in herself to do so.

I finally got the guts to leave when he hurt my dog and kitten. While he was at work, I packed a bag, my pets, and their food, and hid at a coworker’s house and called NCIS and the police. I spent hours getting bruises photographed, giving my statement, waiting while they put him on restriction. I saw him only a handful of times after, all in court. 3 court dates to get a PO approved, the divorce hearing where he told me if I dropped the charges, he’d support me financially, and the two military court dates.

He was charged with a handful of misdemeanors and two felonies. I accepted his guilty plea bargain for 8 months in the Miramar brig on the condition that the felony charges be dropped. The judge wanted to give him 10. I still had to listen to several people testify how great of a person he was- a whole group on his side while I sat there with one friend and my lawyer.

She ends on a very sweet note.

3 years later and i’m actually doing great. I have my own place, a decent job, my pets are doing very well. My credit is shit from the divorce, but really, I’m in decent company in that. This isn’t really a sob story; I’m really proud of what I’ve done on my own. I just wanted to share for possibly some closure since I never really got that. Strangers on the internet are better than keeping it inside for so long. And if you hate my story, I just lose some fake points anyway. I save these text messages to remind myself how far I’ve come, not to cry over. I’m still terrible in relationships but…

I’m good enough, I’m smart enough. And gosh darn it, people like me.




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  1. You have the right to be very proud of yourself! Hold you head high. Your credit will improve. You are a strong woman ! Don’t forget that. NO deserves to be treated that way. SHAME on his parents !

  2. This made me cry bc, I have been through this, too. It’s scary and comforting all at once to see how alike abusers are. Scary bc, you know they sucked you in once & will suck other women & girls in, too. Comforting for the fact they are all so similar that you can spot one or the abuse pretty quickly, and you have the tools needed to tell you kids & young family member what to watch out for. I feel you sooo much! Don’t worry about your romance life, it took me over 10 years to find the right guy. I did though & he truly accepts me with all my damage and emotional instability from my abuse. You’ll find someone, you already took the first step and found love for yourself! ❤️❤️

  3. I could have written this… Almost word for word… And at the time I felt like I was in the middle of a tsunami and no one was left standing. I felt so alone, although everyone loved him. What a cunning way to condescend. I am free now, but have been silent for years still out of fear. I never knew there were so many like me, while he made me feel like I was insane, allowing his dirty game to recapture me again and again in hopes that things would be different and out of extraordinary fear. I was married to him for 17 years. The day I left, my heart pounded so hard… I thought it would pound right out of my chest. I wanted to bolt and run back and crushingly made myself hold strong… Now my family won’t talk to me. They don’t know why I did what I did. He’s viewed as so great. I don’t regret leaving… but I miss my family with a pain that is excruciating. I feel like I traded one hell for another.

  4. You have every right to be proud of how far you’ve come, how strong you were to leave. Learn for those mistakes and grow! I still have to go for plastic surgery 6 years later from injuries caused by my ex.

  5. I’ve been in a similar spot before…. that was 12 years ago and I’m still kicking myself for not documenting anything or pressing charges against him. I lost a lot while I was with him, (family, jobs, cars, credit score) but thankfully was able to get most of it back after I left.
    I don’t know what happened to him after I left, but I hope he burns in hell.

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