Finding a good guy these days is nearly impossible.
They play too much. It never works out. You’re lucky if you pass the 6-month margin. There is too much lying, games and bullshit. It’s hard to identify whether someone has actually come up to you with good intentions.
So, here’s a little help. Check out these 17 signs that show you’ve finally met a good guy:
#1 He gives you no reason to doubt him.
You want to question him. You’re used to suspecting everything, but he gives you no reason to do it either. He provides you with a clean plate. You don’t feel so insecure anymore.
#2 You expect him to mess things up, but he doesn’t.
You predict worse case scenarios, but he always somehow avoids them. He surprises you with good actions instead. He doesn’t let you down.
#3 He sticks to his words.
He’s a man of his words! He respects his promises and values your trust.
#4 He doesn’t play games.
He doesn’t play immature games. He expresses how he feels. If he’s mad, he tells you he’s mad instead of ignoring you. If he’s happy, he hugs you and says how happy he is.
#5 He won’t let you repeat your past.
He treats you right, and that makes you think back on your previous relationships, and how those guys treated you like shit. You feel grateful for the guy you have now.
#6 He respects your boundaries.
He recognises the fact that you built walls around yourself to stay safe. He understands, and he is patient with that. He waits till you let your guard down and trust him. And he won’t make you regret it.
#7 He tells you it’s okay even when you apologise for no reason.
Staying in toxic relationships made you believe that it is somehow always your fault. He assures you that it isn’t, and tells you that everything will be okay.
#8 He proves to you that he won’t hurt you.
Even when you feel scared and insecure, you know you can trust him. He pays attention to what you say and makes sure he doesn’t hurt your feelings.
#9 The fight you thought would make you both break up, but you didn’t.
Before him, fights always resulted in someone leaving, or you getting dumped. It scares you. But then he surprises you by calming everything down and telling you he won’t leave no matter what. He clears all the misunderstandings and is never abusive.
#10 He puts up an effort.
Even when you’re difficult and guarded, he fights for you. He shows you how much you mean to him.
#11 He is kind.
He treats you right. He uses nice words and gestures. You feel warm whenever he’s around, and he makes you feel like a better person.
#12 He is honest.
He doesn’t lie. Even when the truth is a bit uncomfortable, he still tells you. He tells you the truth when it is embarrassing and doesn’t hide anything from you.
#13 He respects you.
He respects your choices, and who you are as a person. He respects everything you do and tries to understand you.
#14 He changes your life.
He actually has quite an impression on your life and routine. You wake up looking forward to talking to him, and you fall asleep thinking of him.
#15 Not everyone is going to hurt you.
He gives you hope that there are good people in the world.
#16 He sticks around even in your bad days.
Even when you push him away, when you’re depressed and difficult as hell, he stays. He comforts you and tells you that it will pass.
#17 He loves you.
After all the ups and downs, after all those arguments, he still loves you.