Everyone experiences brief periods in their relationships when they are not having sex.
And that is perfectly normal. Granted it usually happens when you are getting older, and it lasts for eternity, but sometimes there are brief periods where both of you are leading busy lives and don’t have enough time or are tired.
While I understand that it can be frustrating for the other party, they still shouldn’t make a spreadsheet telling their significant others all the reasons they refused to have sex. I mean, I don’t know about you, but that seems pretty passive-aggressive to me.
And that is never the answer to these kinds of problems. It’s always better to sit down and talk like adults with each other and try to solve the reason behind this ‘timing’ mismatch.
Well, the husband of this lady definitely didn’t understand that notion.
Yesterday morning, while in a taxi on the way to the airport, Husband sends a message to my work email which is connected to my phone.
He’s never done this, we always communicate in person or by text. I open it up, and it’s a sarcastic diatribe basically saying he won’t miss me for the 10 days I’m gone.
Attached is a SPREADSHEET of all the times he has tried to initiate sex since June 1st, with a column for my “excuses”, using verbatim quotes of why I didn’t feel like having sex at that very moment.
According to his ‘document’, we’ve only had sex 3 times in the last 7 weeks, out of 27 “attempts” on his part.
And here is the Spreadsheet in question.
I might not be a therapist, but how did he think this would work out? Would she be so turned on by his passive-aggressiveness that she would have sex with him? I mean isn’t that a bit stupid?
And no, they aren’t a 50-year-old couple. They are only 26 years old and the reason she had refused sex this many times is that she does all the cleaning and cooking around the house. That has got to take a toll on your body, right?
This is a side of him I have never seen before – bitter, immature, full of hatred. In person, he’d been acting normal the whole time, maybe a little standoff-ish in the last week.
Completely out of left field. Our sex life HAS tapered in the last few months, but isn’t that allowed? We are adults leading busy, stressful lives. I cook for him.
I do his laundry, I keep our house clean and tidy. It’s not like our sex life was going to be this way FOREVER, it was a temporary slow-down due to extenuating circumstances.
What about you? Do you think the guy was in the right? Comment on below and let us know.