“It’s easier to get away with than you think.”
You might already know what my thoughts are on this subject as I have written them countless times. And I thought most people agreed with me except the ones who cheat of course.
Well, today we are going to hear a serial cheater side of the story. In her blog she explains why she does it and why she feels no guilt. And her name is Caroline Phinney.
She wrote an article on her website a few days ago and it has caused a huge disturbance on the Internet.
Let it explain her in her own words.
I’m a love addict. I spend hours scrolling through the New York Time‘s Modern Love section, or The Cut‘s Sex Diaries.
I go on about a date a week and spend the rest of my time watching other people’s love stories unfold on Netflix.
When I talk about my future with my friends, it always includes marriage and children. But I’ve also cheated on every person I’ve ever been with.
If you’ve agreed to a monogamous relationship it’s written into the framework that you won’t stray — physically or emotionally.
And then she goes on to say that people are better off this way.
People don’t refrain from cheating because they’re happy with their partners, they refrain from cheating because they’re afraid of being caught.
And perhaps a few of the guys I cheated on knew but they stayed with me anyway. As for the rest, it was easy enough to hide.
If you’re worried about them seeing you on Tinder, don’t be. Ask them why they were on it in the first place. And if a friend sees you? Say your account is old.
“It keeps the one you’re dating interested.”
There’s no easier way to get bored of someone than by dating them.
And nobody wants to date someone who doesn’t have their own life. Seriously dating someone is similar to moving in — you can’t just un-move in with someone you’re seeing.
You’re either going to spend the rest of your lives together, or you’re going to split. Those are literally the only two options. With decades of time ahead of you, why rush into pushing other people out?
“You’re going to date a lot of people and you’re going to marry almost none of them.”
How many of your friends and interests are you going to shelve while placing them first, only to realize you’re boring and impossible to date afterwards? You have nothing of your own because everything you had was shared.
Guys don’t want you to sleep with other people because it’s the only thing they have that we don’t. And once you rise above that, they realize they’ve lost their grip on that leash they thought was so tight.
And then she leaves us with the following paragraph.
So maybe I’m telling you this because college is behind me and most of those ties are broken anyway.
I didn’t love any of the people I cheated with, and I never went on to date them in the future. But ultimately, they taught me more about myself than any of the guys I called my boyfriend.
And as far as the “boyfriends” are concerned, they’ve all slid into my DMs since. Checkmate.
I was not aware that relationships were about winning and losing.
It seems most people agree with me on that.
Unsurprisingly, The Internet hates her.
I agree wholeheartedly.
Cheating doesn’t make you a desirable person.
It just makes you a lonely loser.
And being cheated on is the worst feeling in the world.
Someone explain her that.
If so why not just be in an open relationship rather than cheat on your significant other?
What do you think about Caroline’s philosophy? Do you think what she has been doing is okay? Or do you despise people that cheat? Comment on below and let us know!